Essential Interviews Tips and Skills To Get You Started!
Essential Interviews Tips and Skills To Get You Started!
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Some people feel uncomfortable with silence—especially when we are with people we do not know very well. This is exactly the situation you find yourself in at many interviews. It is almost certain to be true at a job interview, less likely to be true at the performance appraisal. If you are afraid of silence, you are likely to rush to fill the void with verbiage. This could be your undoing. If you can become comfortable with silence, or at least mentally accept that it is okay, it will work to your advantage.
Don’t Jump In Too Soon or Talk Too Much. The interviewer asks you a question. Though you do not want to pause for so long a time the interviewer becomes uncomfortable or thinks you have entered a catatonic state, feel free to take a few moments to consider your response. Be careful that you don’t jump in too soon with your response. A moment’s pause to compose your thoughts will work to your advantage.
Be careful not to talk too much. Some applicants talk on and on because they are afraid of silence. In a common scenario the candidate finishes his thought and pauses waiting for the interviewer to assume the lead, but the interviewer says nothing. The applicant begins to feel uncomfortable after a minute or two, so he decides he had better say something more. The “something more” may tell the interviewer far more than the well composed comments the candidate offered initially. The interviewer may simply be formulating his next comment or question, but he may be purposely confronting you with silence. First, he may want to see how well you handle yourself under the pressure to keep the flow of the interview going by speaking. Resist that pressure. Second, he may wish to see whether you will modify or retract what you have said. Maybe you will provide more information that will help him eliminate you from consideration for the job. A good inteviewer will leave silence at the end of your answer. If you ramble on incoherently in order to fill silence, you will be rising to his bait.
Of course silence can be uncomfortable. But when you are confronted with silence at the end of your answer, resist the temptation to talk too much. Fools may jump in, but you shouldn’t! If the silence drags on for too long a time, you have three options which can reflect positively on you. First, you could ask the interviewer whether you have answered his question. This puts the ball back in his court and at least you should get a sense of what you should do next. If he asks you to clarify something, then of course do so—taking a moment first to compose your thoughts again. You may need to ask him to clarify what additional information he is requesting. Don’t be afraid to ask questions that will give you a sense of the focus the interviewer is interested in hearing. Of course, if the interviewer was just trying to see how you would handle the uncomfortable silence, you have conveyed your ability to remain composed and handle the situation in a positive manner.
A second option is to suggest another question the interviewer might be interested in hearing about, “Perhaps you’d like to hear about . . .” The question you suggest should relate in some way to the question you have just answered and be one of your strengths that you would like to have an opportunity to talk about. Third, you could take the opportunity to ask the interviewer a question. Ideally the question you ask should be related to the areas you have been discussing. And do not ask self-centered questions at this point: no question about salary or benefits please!
